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Forum THE LOUNGE Bunny dilemma of sorts

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    • Michelle&Lolli
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        As you all know, I want a new boy bunny so bad.  I am still not able to get a bunny yet.  My back is getting a bit better with physical therapy but the nerve sensations are still there.  I don’t know what the future holds or when/if I’m going back to work.  I also might have to move in with my mom.

        But I got to thinking the other night.  Lolli seems perfectly happy being with just me.  She was such a passive, bottom of the totem pole bunny with Eddie.  Eddie really did bully her.  lol  He would chase her out of the living room if I was paying attention to her.  He would chase her out of the litterbox as soon as she got in there.  He’d chase her away from the water bottle as soon as she tried to get a drink.  He was just a little dominanting tyrant to her.  She got back by refusing his grooming requests all the time.  LOL   You can tell she enjoys her single “no one to boss me around” status.

        My dilemma is, if I’m not able to go back to work, should I get a new bunny even though Lolli is fine?   I would be getting one just because *I* want one.  

        If I go back to work, there is no option in getting a new bunny.  Lolli’s not a demonstrative bunny but I get the feeling that she doesn’t really like me leaving her.  So I will have to get a new bunny shortly after returning to work. 

        I guess I am just trying to justify getting a new bunny sometime.  LOL   Before Christmas, I was wanting one because Lolli needed a friend.  And now I’m realizing that she’s perfectly fine on her own, so I can’t use her as an excuse.    But I also don’t want to put Lolli through the stress of bonding again if she’s fine.  ARRGGGG.  Yes I am driving myself batty.  I know it’s a moot point cause I’m STILL not ready to get one yet, but Lolli being fine on her own really just occurred to me this week.  Or I finally accepted it. 

        Sigh.  I guess I just needed to write my thoughts out to sort them. 


      • LoveChaCha
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          Chacha is showing me signs she needs a friend, but unfortunately, mommy doesn’t have that money at the moment and I’m not sure if her grandpa would be alright with that.
          I know Elrohwen got Hannah when she was unemployed.
          If you believe it is too much work for you, then I would advise against it.
          From what you’ve been saying Lolli sounds pretty content as a single lady and is become affectionate to you.


        • Bren
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            well perhaps you can take your bun to a local shelter and have some playdates first and see how that goes?  Unfortunately we dont have rabbits in any local here, so I would not have had that option, but, perhaps you do?


          • jerseygirl
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              Sigh. I guess I just needed to write my thoughts out to sort them.

              I can relate. I did this also and I think it helped.

              This is a recurring thing for you since Eddie passed. I find I let things go round and round in my head driving me crazy when I just need to stop thinking. “When it’s right it will happen” is something I try to remember and this might be useful for you also.  Or….you might be really sick of hearing that!

              I’m the same in that “future” rabbits would be for me really unless I was looking for a friend for one of mine who’d lost a mate. I just love them.
              You sound like you might be in a good position to be a temporary fosterer – or even a bunny sitter.
              Not sure how fostering programs work financially and whether you get full coverage of costs. It could be a good way for you to see what the impact of having another rabbit around might be like. Whether Lolli adjusts or not.


            • Michelle&Lolli
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                I am not able to foster because there’s no rabbit shelters near me. The closest HRS is in Chicago. Which is also why I can’t take her on playdates. But I do definitely want to adopt because it would be cheaper than going out and getting a rabbit from a breeder. If I went that route, I would have find the money to get it neutered. If I adopt, I won’t.

                I think mainly I was working through that Lolli really is ok by herself for now. We seem to have gotten closer since I’ve been sleeping on the floor. The other morning I woke up and she was laying right next to my blankets. Not touching ME, but it was the closest she’s ever slept near me. Usually it’s a foot or more away. lol I just wish she was more of a kisser. And snuggler. But she’s not and that’s ok. She lets me give her nosepets at night which is very sweet. Lately we’ve been doing nose bumps. She comes up to sniff my face and I stick my nose out and she bumps it and hops off. It’s not an every time thing so when she does it, it’s doubly sweet.

                I’ve just been worried that she’s been lonely all this time and realized she’s fine.


              • Monkeybun
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                  JG< I know that with rabbit advocates, at least, not all costs are covered. The fosterers have to spend out of pocket for hte buns for regular stuff, only medical bills are covered. OR if stuff is donated directly to the fosterer.


                • FluffyBunny
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                    I think that you’re probably more lonely than she is.

                    If you can support a new rabbit and have the time to do bonding sessions, you should certainly get one! Just make sure that you aren’t adopting a new rabbit just because you want a cuddly, affectionate licker. (If you want one of those, I’d be fine with you borrowing Mr. Bunny for a while instead. )


                  • Michelle&Lolli
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                      I am missing Eddie so much right now. I’m sitting here bawling cause I don’t know if I will ever be able to get another bunny. I can justify getting another rabbit when I’m not working and getting my benefits money on a regular basis. But all my medical crap is going on for so long that I don’t see it ending. I need a freaking counseling appointment but oh wait, I can’t afford it.

                      I’m pretty sure I’m PMSing and as soon as it begins, I’ll be fine. This crying, depressed babbling happens almost every month.


                    • Monkeybun
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                        And definitely do not get another bunny because you are missing one that is gone now. Never get replacements, get the bun for who he/she is, not for whom you lost


                      • Beka27
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                          Chances are that Lolli is fine without a mate. Even if you went back to work, she would still (probably) be fine. We want to project these human emotions onto our rabbits, but that’s US thinking this, not them. If you’re not prepared for another, don’t get another. Enjoy Lolli for who she is, and continue developing that bond with her. Those mini rexes are incredibly special bunnies. She won’t be around forever, so I’m sure she won’t be your last bun. But there’s nothing wrong with “just” having one.

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