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Forum THE LOUNGE someone talk me out of it…seriously….

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    • Michelle&Lolli
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        So…I’m depressed, lonely, pmsing, missing Eddie like hell and am really wanting another rabbit.  I know I need to adopt.  Not only does lots of bunnies need homes, it would be the best money wise and personality wise cause they can match me up with bunnies with traits i’m looking for. But Chicago is 3 hours away. 

        However…..I looked on craigslist.  And it would be soooo easy to get a baby or adult rabbits that people don’t want anymore.  (Stupid dumb bleep bleep bleep people).  I am really tempted right now. 

        Just writing this all out has helped a lot but there’s still that little part of me that wants to run out and get a bunny.  So ladies…..continue to talk me out of it and just tell me I’m stupid and going out and getting a bunny on a whim is a bad idea.  Eddie was a whim and he turned out good, but I don’t think that’s gonna happen twice.  lol 


      • bunnymum16
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          when my first bunny Shades died,i felt really sad and lonely.i kept thinking maybe getting a new one will make me feel better.i went to check on bunnies at my local shelter and although it was nice seeing bunnies again,i just kept on comparing them to my bunny Shades.that’s how i knew i wasnt ready yet. it would be selfish of me to get a new one just so i can feel better.i needed closure not a replacement.

          my advice to you is that maybe you should wait awhile until you get closure from Eddie passing on.make sure youre ready.you have to keep in mind that you have Lolli too to keep you company.she’s sad too.maybe she isnt quite ready for a new one yet.let the pain heal.
          i know how sad it is right now.just hang in there and be strong most specially for Lolli.she needs you the most now that she lost her Eddie.

          hope i helped.


        • AbbyGirl
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            Sorry you’re feeling that way. I know exactly what it’s like. I’m proof you shouldn’t get a new bun on a whim. I do miss Hugo but more so I miss having a rabbit hopping around the house. Yesterday I was feeling just like you. It doesn’t help that it’s getting cooler and has been gloomy outside lately. You are so lucky to have Lolli to help you through it. I know she’s a stinker but I know you love her to pieces! Hope your day is better today. =)


          • Michelle&Lolli
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              I do tend to miss him more when I’m more depressed. So I know part of it is that. I’m really depressed right now about my medical problems. And like you Amy, I really miss having 2 bunnies hopping around and seeing Lolli with that bond.

              She is bonded to me and showing her true rabbit traits now. lol She’s getting bossier. This morning, she nipped me for treats. LOL Now she can’t get into the habit of doing that, but the fact that she’s coming all the way up to me and nipping is huge. She usually only tries to bite when she’s done snuggling.

              I realized shortly after posting that I feel tremendous guilt for Eddie’s death. He had a stomach blockage that was almost the size of his stomach and it probably mostly carpet. I feel guilty because while I did get on him to stop, I wasn’t super vigilant about it either. There was so much that I should have done differently.

              I still don’t have money to adopt. And I still don’t know what’s gonna happen with my spine as surgery is still an option but I am trying other treatments first. So logically, I KNOW now is not the time to be getting another rabbit. But buying a local bunny for around $10 would be so easy so my emotional, hurting self screams out GO GET ONE! lol But then i’d have to pay at least $250 to get it fixed and train it and blah blah blah. And if I wait and adopt, I can get one that’s already fixed and litter trained for $75. lol So yeah….logical self is winning. haha

              Thank you for the thoughts! Sometimes I just need to get feedback on my feelings and emotions from people who understand. I am an adult, living on my own, but neither parent wants me to even get another one and everyone else keeps telling me to wait.


            • jerseygirl
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                I’m going to pass on the words from this wise woman:

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                Amy – When I lost Eddie, I immediately started thinking of new rabbits. Partly cause I couldn’t stand the thought of not having a snuggly bunny and also because of Lolli. I was afraid she was going to be lonely and bored without a friend. All of my family, my friends, and my counselor all told me I’d better wait. I couldn’t figure out why cause I thought I was coping well and it made me mad being told no. Two weeks after Eddie had passed, I burst into tears and couldn’t stop crying. It was my grieving time for Eddie.

                Now it’s almost been 2 months and I’m still thinking about getting another rabbit. I still don’t believe it’s the right time due to my spinal problems and not deciding yet whether to have surgery or not. And I am a bit afraid of getting another one. I really want to make sure it’s the right bunny for us.

                I know if I had gone out and gotten another rabbit shortly after Eddie had passed, I would’ve had a similar thing happen. It’s safe to assume that I would’ve probably resented the new bun for not being Eddie at the very least. And I would’ve mourned all the more.
                 

                 

                You posted that to Amy recently.  I thought it pretty insightful and it’s obvious you know what this is a recurring thing during your depressed bouts.  You have your head screwed on right.

                I know looking at rabbits at the best of times can be a cheer up or a great downer (with some situations you come across). When your feeling vulnerable, I suggest not even looking at craigslist, petfinder or whatever. Perhaps identify a safer distraction?

                Another thing to remember if tempted to get a new rabbit now…they mean more work – especially baby rabbits! And you’ll be doing separate living quarters for Newbie and Lolli and bonding down the track.  Some food for thought…

                There, has that helped?  I actually think you’ve done a good job of handling this temptation yourself. Sometimes it is helpful  just to put it “out there” (i.e. on Binky Bunny Forum lol) and then – voila, you’re over it.    I’m sending you some {{{healing vibes}}} for your back and your spirit!


              • Michelle&Lolli
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                  Thanks!

                  And I realized today when I was talking to my friend that I get depressed when I think about getting a new bunny. So I’m obviously not ready yet. I know this probably all sounds weird but when I’m depressed, it’s a cycle. I’m depressed cause I miss Eddie and because of my life situation in general right now, a new bunny would cheer me up yet that thought makes me depressed. I simply have nothing else but my medical problems to focus on.

                  I know another bunny means work. I’m not really looking forward to bonding. lol Eddie and Lolli was difficult cause Eddie was a little butthead. They could’ve bonded the first session cause Lolli was already submitting to him. Geesh. haha Since Lolli is submissive, theoretically bonding her to a new bun should be not too difficult. Unless she’s become more dominant since she’s alone but how much does that kind of stuff change? lol

                  But regardless, I do know logically that I have no business getting another bunny right now. I also think having a dog would be fun so you all know I’m just wanting SOMETHING to make me feel better. lol


                • jerseygirl
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                    Doesn’t sound weird. Sounds familiar actually.

                    Animals do have a good way of shifting focus and keeping us busy. They certainly bring alot. Are there any foster programs near you? Would that be something you’re open to doing or even physically up for? That way you have a new animal companion but without the cost.
                    Where I live, they sometimes advertise temporary homes for Seeing Eye dogs. For when they’re puppies and just need socialising, or later when they begin training and the fosterers drop them to doggy school each day.

                    There may be a need for temporary homes for pups, kittens, rabbits….(if you’re ready for that). Even look at local ads for temporary homes for someones pet.


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                      Posted By Beka27 on 10/30/2010 08:08 AM
                      If you don’t have the money to adopt, you don’t have the money for a second bun right now. I know it sucks when you want one… but “mystery” $10 Craigslist bunnies are a crapshoot. What if you buy a bun off CL with mal-occluded teeth, an undetectable abscess, or any other of a million health issues. The cost of spay/neuter is MINIMAL compared to what could be required. At least with adoptions thru a reputable shelter/HRS, the buns have recently been vet-checked. Chances are slim that a $10 CL bunny has ever been seen by a vet.

                      Also… in some cases, if you adopt and a health issue comes up within the first month/couple months, the rescue may reimburse some (or all) of the cost of treatment.  Or if it is something way outside of your ability to handle, they will take the bunny back.  A private party looking to make $10 on CL would never, ever do that.

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                      Not sure why I am “quoted”.  These are my posts above   ^^^^^ 

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