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Last Post by MyPets1031 at 9/28/2012 12:07 PM (15 Replies)
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User is Offline MyPets1031
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9/24/2012 4:12 PM

This is really the only place I know where to go. My Cat Joey is 16 and he's long haired black and white. My mom got him before I was born with his brother James. James died when I was little when the neighbor dog attacked him. Joey was there the first day I came home as a baby and he used to watch me take bathes and he loves me and I love him. He gives me this look, he doesn't give it to anyone else and you can just see the love in his eyes. I have four other cats and I have always chose to snuggle or hold them instead of Joey. But sometimes we would snuggle on the bed together and I have those happy moments because even though I don't spend a majority of my time with him, we have such a deep bond I could never begin to describe. It's like, we've been together since the begining and nothing was ever different. Nothing can ever change. He's just part of my life and I love him so much. But he's ben loosing weight. The vet said he has a heart murmur and something is wrong with his thyroid. We've know this for at least a year. And rescently he's been pooping in random places around the house. But tonight I walked in the living room and he started squating like he was going to poop so I said, "Mom, Joey's pooping!" And she gently pushed him over to see if he really was and he fell down on his side and couldn't get up on his own. Then he weakly walked over and went to sit on the couch. My mom asked me if I wanted to come with tomorrow night if she were to put him down and I don't know. I love him, and I want him to be at peace when he goes and I know I'm like his favorite thing in the whole world, but I just don't know what to do. He's probably going to be put down tomorrow and I'm sad, but It's like I don't believe it inside or something because at the same time, I'm not sad. I don't know if I should go or not. I just love him so much and I never really knew it until right now. I'm sorry if I rambled to much, i kinda just need someone to talk to.

User is Offline ssaapple
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9/24/2012 4:37 PM
I'm sorry to hear about your cat, but it sounds like your mom is making the best decision for Joey. If you think you can handle it please go and be with him. He'll be scared and having his lifetime buddy there with him will be a great comfort. It's not a horrible process. The vet will give him a shot and he will seem to fall asleep. You'll be able to sit with him as long as you like. Some vet practices will make a clay paw print for you to have to remember him. I also keep the tags and collars of my past pets in a keepsake box.

User is Offline ScooterandAnnette
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9/24/2012 4:42 PM
So sorry that you're having to deal with this. This is never an easy thing to go through, no matter what your age, and you have my absolute sympathy! Whether you go or not is up to you. It sounds like you've never been through something like this before, so you might not be sure what to expect. I've had a few cats that have been euthanized and it's pretty much gone like this every time: the vet usually gives 1 initial shot of a pain killer to keep the cat calm and take the pain away so that they're not actually in pain when they die, and then after a few minutes they're given "the shot" and they basically just close their eyes and stop breathing. For one of my cats I was out of town when she was taken to the vet and I'm still sad that I didn't get a chance to be with her even though that was about 5 years ago. Whether or not it's the right thing for you, only you can decide.
- Annette
Pet Parents to: Tegan,Kiera, and Galen (bunnies); Ringo and Owen (cats); Dakota (dog). We miss our Rainbow Bunnies: Keiran, Kylie, Keelie, Reno, Carbun, Kaylee, Aeryn, and our boy Bailey.

User is Offline MyPets1031
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9/24/2012 4:59 PM
Thank you. Many years ago, when I was 8, I had a cat named Max. He was my cat, I got him when I was 2, I picked him out myself. My mom never told me he was sick and my dad took him to the vet to be euthanized. I had a dream he died but I was so buisy, I thought nothing of it for a few days before I finally became frantic searching for him. My mom told me he died and he'd been dead for 3 days, the same day I had the dream. I feel so bad I couldn't say good bye and I don't want that to happen again.

User is Offline Beka27
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9/24/2012 6:02 PM

It's hard. But it's supposed to be hard. You won't regret going and comforting him. You will regret not going.

Two years ago I made the last minute decision to not go when the love of my life was put to rest. I have not healed from this and I know I will regret it forever.

Just go.
Meadow..... Photobucket ...... Max, my angel bunny

User is Offline Mimzy
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9/24/2012 11:02 PM
I know exactly what you're going through, I'm very sorry you're having to go through this at 16. I had to do it for my cat when I was 17. He was my cat & fell ill with cancer. He did fine for another 8 weeks but since he was mine, I had to make the call when it was time. You could just see in his eyes that he wanted to go. I know now that if I had not gone with him to say goodbye, I would regret it. I think it is really important for you to go, I know it's extremely difficult right now wondering if you should but later, you will definitely be glad you got to hold him for his last few moments. But it really is something to think about, you do want what is best for them & it sounds like that's what you're mom is trying to do.

They do go peacefully, & my vet had beautiful crematory boxes to choose from, as that's what we wanted for him.
We, here at BB, will definitely be here to comfort you, pets bring huge joy to our lives & I'm sure everyone here understands that so we will all be here for you, no doubt! Thoughts & prayers out to you, your family, & Joey.
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User is Offline MimzMum
Southwest Oregon
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9/25/2012 12:37 AM
I am so sorry to hear about your kitty. :'(
I have had a few different experiences with euthanasia and each time, although it was intensely difficult, I was glad I was there. The only times I've regretted it was when I wasn't there to say goodbye.
I lost my childhood cat to FIP. I was at work when she passed after just seeing her at I the vet during my lunch hour. I'd been syringe feeding her but she wouldn't eat. And her eyes just said 'stop.' I was too scared to say goodbye so I left hoping she'd be okay...she couldn't wait though.
It sounds as if your kitty has reached that point and, as sad as that is for us it is even sadder for him. You can give him his happiness back by helping him to the Bridge where most of us believe he will be renewed and comfortable again in spirit.
Do go if you can. I'm thinking somewhere down the line you'll look back on it and be glad you did.
I'll be thinking of you. (((((((((Hugs )))))))))

User is Offline MyPets1031
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9/25/2012 12:54 PM
My mom brought Joey to the vet today while I was at school. I though she would wait for when I got home, but she didn't. Luckily, I said goodbye this morning. He looked so bad, I thought he might have just died on his own. I told him I loved him and it was OK to go. I'd see him on the other side. I got home and my mom told my brother and I he was dead. She brought us to the garage and he was in a little box. We took of his collar and cut out some of his hair to keep. Then we closed the box and burried him in our backyard. We painted a stone to say Joey with a heart under it and it says "Love Mom, Dad, Amanda, Jacob." Our names. My mom said the other cats seem to be acting weird. She stayed home all day and she thinks that Joey's spirit hung around for a while. She said he was waiting for us, my brother and I but I don't see anything different in the house, besides the fact that our only boy, 16 year old handsome black and white kitty is gone. No more Joey. No more ear rubs. I loved the way he'd kick his back feet when you really got going on the ear rubs. Before we burried him, I rubbed his ear, I almost expected him to kick me or at least shake his head like he always used to but it was just cold and hard. I miss my old boy. I remember when he used to sit at the edge of the tub and wait for me to get out and play with him. I wish I could pet him just one last time. I love you Joey. See you soon. :'(

User is Offline Hazel
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9/25/2012 2:16 PM
I'm really sorry about Joey. I wish your mom had waited for you like you wanted, maybe she thought it would be better that way or maybe she misunderstood. It sounds like he was ready though, so I hope you feel better knowing that he is in no pain now.
"You ain't buna fide!"

User is Offline RabbitPam
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9/25/2012 2:33 PM
I just want to offer my condolences and say that I am glad you felt you could talk to us about it here. Many of us have had beloved cats as well as bunnies and other animals, and it is a painful part of the life we are fortunate to share with them. You sound like you are handling it well today.

I wouldn't worry about not having been there when your mom brought Joey in. She must have loved him and found it hard to do as well, and was doing what she felt was best. I know other members encouraged you to go, but honestly I was of two minds about it. I was tempted to say you could also say a last goodbye to him at home, and not go to the vet. Since that is what happened after all, and since you had a last goodbye and burial, I think your family handled it well. It is really the memories you describe and will have over the next few days, weeks and even years to come that are truly important to hold onto. When our loved ones are dying it is not how we need to remember them for long. I think your stories about Joey are lovely. If you want to post some pictures here, we'd love to see them.

There's a poem about our animals crossing the Rainbow Bridge that you might want to read. It says that now Joey has crossed the bridge and is happy and playing in beautiful fields, and waiting to see you when you meet again. I am sure he is watching over you in your grief and sending you love to lift your sadness. You gave him a great family home.
SPIKE, my snuggle bunny (aka Spikey Marbles)

User is Offline MyPets1031
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9/25/2012 4:35 PM!/;theater!/;theater!/;theater

My mom was really upset about being there. I am glad I didn't have to go. I did get to say goodbye before I left for school. He knows how much I loved him and I'm glad I didn't have to see him die. I think that would have made everything worse. I did pet his body when I came home from school and we prayed for him before we burried him so I got to keep some of his fur and his collar.

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9/27/2012 12:17 PM
Today is incredibly hard. I look back at his pictures and I just don't believe he's gone. I saw his dead body and I know he's gone. I'll never pet him or kiss him again. I'll never hear his beautiful, loud purr. I'll never have snuggle time with him on the couch and I'll never have to turn the water on in the bathtub for him ever again. He only drank out of the tub. He'll never wake us up in the night with his loud 'opera singing' but worst of all, I can never tell him my secrets. Ever. Again. He's gone. I went out to his grave last night and just talked. I just told the sky everything like I was talking to him again. When I went out it was sunny and when I came back in it was pitch black. I was out there for at least 2 hours. But that didn't make anything better. I still miss him, he's still not here, and I still don't have anyone to tell all my horrible secrets to. No one to share my day with who will comfort me. No one who will just listen. Of course I have other cats... 4 but it's not the same. For some reason, it always seemed like Joey was listening. The other ones just get up and walk away but Joey would just purr and wait until I was done.I am so sad. I just don't know what to do! It's just not fair!!!! I wanna scream. I want to punch whoever made this have to happen. While I was outside, I wanted to just dig the dirt off his precious body so I could see him just one more time. Just hold him once more and kiss him one more time. He wouldn't return the purr or meow like he used to but I just wanna see his beautiful green eyes. This pain is so overwhelming, I just can't do anything. Its so bad. I can't describe this intence inablity to do anything. I just want him back so bad. My cat max died when I was 8. That was the only other death I've ever really experienced. But the sadness lasted half an hour. I loved max. So much. He was my baby. But it was so different. Was it my age? I don't know. I just want him back. How can I get through this. Seems like so many bad things are happening in my life right now and I have no control over it. I just don't know how to keep going on like this.

User is Offline zoologist
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9/27/2012 4:53 PM
I completely understand where you're coming from. When I found Tofu I spend an hour sitting in front of his cage, crying, and telling him how awesome he was, and how awful he was for pooping everywhere, and how much I loved him and how much the cats hated him. It definitely helped with the grieving process.

Be happy you are able to sit outside and be with Joey. I live in an apartment and move on a yearly basis (yay college!) so Tofu is being put to rest an hour south of me in a friend's backyard. I won't get to visit him, but you can sit under a tree and read a book on a breezy day and look over and see your beloved cat and think about all of the good times you two had together! You can still tell him your secrets.... he's up above watching over you <3

Also, I sent you a PM


User is Offline MyPets1031
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9/27/2012 7:34 PM
Well, I could always tell him all the bad things in my life. Like when my best friends got removed from their home by socail workers. But what helped was his purr. And I can still talk to him by sitting next to his grave, but how do I know he hears me? I won't hear his purr anymore, the thing that comforted me the most. Plus being there, next to his grave only makes things worse sometimes because I can't actually believe that I put dirt on top of him. I can't believe he's only 2 feet below the surface yet I'll never see him again. Its just to hard. When I was out there, I just wanted to see him so bad, I almost dug him out but i listened to my better judgement and let his grave be. It's just so sad to be there and know i can't see him yet know he's so close. Worst of all I've been havig some doubts about God for the past 10 months and Joey's death only makes things worse because I'm not sure if I believe theres a heaven right now. And not knowing where he is is the worst part.

User is Offline Roberta
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9/27/2012 11:59 PM
Hi Mypets,
I lost my beautiful ginger tom Toffee many years ago. He passed quietly on his favourite chair with his teddy bear. He came in to say good bye to me in my craft room then wandered into the spare room climbed up on his favourite chair and very quietly went to sleep and never woke up.... The thing is I don't believe he has ever truly left me. My other cat and his best friend Twinkle Toes (who is still with me at 22 yrs) missed him dreadfully and would search all his favourite places for months. One night after a particularly trying day I felt a cat curl up at my feet on the bed and assumed it was Twinks until I realised she was alseep behind my pillow. I could feel the weight and the warmth and even feel his purrs, I knew then that he was still there. Since then when ever times are hard I feel his presence on the bed, comforting and warm. My other cats even make room for him. Sadly I think his visits these days are more about being here to show Twinkers across the rainbow bridge to Summerland but atleast I know when she passes Mr (Toffee) Toffalofagus, the love of her life, will be waiting to show her the way.

User is Offline MyPets1031
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9/28/2012 12:07 PM
I wish that would happen with Joey. I miss his purr so much. I'd be nice to feel him again.

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