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    • sarahthegemini
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        Do you guys have people in your life that just don’t care about animals? My partner’s parents (and whole family really) aren’t animal people at all, which is something I just can’t understand (I usually don’t trust people who don’t like animals!) We were invited to go over to his extended family’s house for boxing day or new years, it’s a 3 hour drive there so altogether it would be 6 hours driving in total. I said to my bf that I don’t feel comfortable or safe leaving my buns for an entire day (from say, 8 am to probably around midnight) He agreed that it wouldn’t be fair on the bunnies. He’s worrying though that his family aren’t going to think the bunnies are ‘a valid excuse’ They’re the type of people to think sacrificing something for an animal is ridiculous and they’re very much part of the “oh they’re just animals they’ll be fine” Which drives me batty! Am I being oversensitive? 

        Also, next Sunday, we are going to his parents for dinner to celebrate his Birthday. My sweet Buttercup is being spayed on the Friday so of course by Sunday she is going to still need careful observation and I assume pain killers. I’ll also need to ensure she is eating and pooping normally so I can’t stay for more than a couple of hours at my in-laws place. Again, my partner is worried that they won’t think this is a valid excuse (“it’s just a rabbit, she’ll be fine…”) He actually wanted me to lie about having to leave, which I refused. I mean, you don’t have to be an animal person to know that a rabbit that has had surgery requires extra care!

        This is more of a rant than anything, but does anyone have any similar experiences?


      • DorothyTheMiniSatinBun
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          I do have a few people in my life that don’t care about animals as much as I do. I think half of them enjoy animals (like someone would enjoy seeing an animal at the zoo or the aquarium) but simply don’t want to deal with the hassle of keeping pets, caring for them, etc. I also think there is a group of people that don’t understand or care for animals because they have either never grown up with pets, grew up in a different culture, or had bad experiences (like my mom, who grew up with an aggressive doberman and german shephard when she was a child). 

          In your case, I think it’s the typical thing of people don’t understand rabbits until they own one. I really think the majority of people think of rabbits as large hamsters or mice and don’t realize how complex they really are! I do agree with your boyfriend that the family will probably consider it an invalid excuse, only because they don’t understand… and that’s because they don’t own rabbits themselves. With that being said, based on my own experiences, I prefer to keep the peace and just give the answer everyone prefers to hear rather than stir up emotions. It helps everyone get along better. I am not encouraging lying about the reason if you really don’t want to because I agree that you shouldn’t have to, and that people should just understand that surgery is a big deal.. but unless you make a point to sit down with them and explain why this is really important to you, you can’t expect them to just understand  Just my two cents!


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            Posted By DorothyTheMiniSatinBun on 11/28/2016 3:30 PM

            I do have a few people in my life that don’t care about animals as much as I do. I think half of them enjoy animals (like someone would enjoy seeing an animal at the zoo or the aquarium) but simply don’t want to deal with the hassle of keeping pets, caring for them, etc. I also think there is a group of people that don’t understand or care for animals because they have either never grown up with pets, grew up in a different culture, or had bad experiences (like my mom, who grew up with an aggressive doberman and german shephard when she was a child). 

            In your case, I think it’s the typical thing of people don’t understand rabbits until they own one. I really think the majority of people think of rabbits as large hamsters or mice and don’t realize how complex they really are! I do agree with your boyfriend that the family will probably consider it an invalid excuse, only because they don’t understand… and that’s because they don’t own rabbits themselves. With that being said, based on my own experiences, I prefer to keep the peace and just give the answer everyone prefers to hear rather than stir up emotions. It helps everyone get along better. I am not encouraging lying about the reason if you really don’t want to because I agree that you shouldn’t have to, and that people should just understand that surgery is a big deal.. but unless you make a point to sit down with them and explain why this is really important to you, you can’t expect them to just understand  Just my two cents!

            I can sort of understand them thinking bunnies are, as you said, just giant hamsters that require very little effort. I myself didn’t realise how complex they were and I dived in at the deep end! But it does upset me to think they wouldn’t think post-op care is very much an important thing to take into consideration. For any animal, having an operation is a worthy “excuse” so to speak. Partner’s Dad is going to be the main one that will just not get it, he knows how much I love animals and yet whenever he has the chance he’ll ‘joke’ about cooking and eating my rabbits  He thinks me being a vegetarian is a complete joke too 


          • Vienna Blue in France
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              I exactly know how you feel. I think you can simply say your reasons politely and leave it at that because these sort of people you won’t be able to convince anyway. So don’t try. Don’t waste your time…. Certainly don’t try and justify it. You’ll just be labelled the “lovely but bunny bonkers relative”. It doesn’t matter in the SLIGHTEST. Wear your label with pride !! You’ll be respected for it


            • Vienna Blue in France
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                And about your partners dad making jokes, if it’s all said lightheartedly then okay (i certainly get “jokes” like that. I laugh them off.). But if it’s really hurting you, then have a word with your partner who could have a quiet word with his dad


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                  Posted By Vienna Blue in France on 11/28/2016 4:08 PM

                  I exactly know how you feel. I think you can simply say your reasons politely and leave it at that because these sort of people you won’t be able to convince anyway. So don’t try. Don’t waste your time…. Certainly don’t try and justify it. You’ll just be labelled the “lovely but bunny bonkers relative”. It doesn’t matter in the SLIGHTEST. Wear your label with pride !! You’ll be respected for it

                  I’m already known as the crazy lady with a fondness for owls, foxes and cats so this shouldn’t be much of a surprise to them  I’ll just tell them I need to check on my fur-baby and leave it at that


                • Bam
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                    My mother’s husband doesn’t understand pets. Esp not rabbits. When my Yohio died, he didn’t offer so much as one word of condolences, because rabbits are ridiculous and they are unintelligent.

                    If someone I knew had a pet mosquito that died I’d say I was sorry, because all pets matter to their owners.

                    He would’ve said sth if my dog had died -I think.

                    It’s a bit like living in parallel universes. To me it seems so very strange not to have feelings for animals. It feels like such an empty, almost pointless, life They miss out on so much. I guess it has to do with upbringing, mostly.


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                      My brother-in-law. He drives me crazy very often because of his attitude. He loves his dogs but one Easter, after I spent the day at the emerg vet with my Bindi, and was telling my sister how it was so expensive, he said, “Just get another one”…. I was so mad……..He’s also a hunter and is always after me for being a vegetarian and raising my daughter vegetarian. We really get on each other’s nerves….


                    • BrunosMama
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                        Nope, no room for such people in my life.

                        This however isn’t true. But I can’t say I know anyone who hates animals. Even my mom has tolerated pets all through my sister and my childhood (dad also loved animals) despite not being a fan of animals much.


                      • Deleted User
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                          I always ‘TRY’ to be respectful of others…. because I want the same in return – to be respected! For who I am, and what is important to me! My mum would have hated my bunny, ha ha! The FLUFF!!!! Lol! She is no longer with me but I can still laugh and I know she would have respected my love for a bunny and if I lost him, she would be the first to console me and get me through the grief! It’s called COMPASSION! You don’t need to love whatever it is to have compassion for others. 

                          You don’t have to LOVE animals – just be compassionate to others around you. Respect that you may love one thing, but they may adore something else. I’m pretty sure we ALL love and are passionate over something. 

                          And YOU do make the difference when grieving over a pet even if it’s no big deal to you – I had friends that I had never met personally that gifted me a card and gift over my loss – NOT because they were animal lover’s!!! They saw MY grief! And tried to make it better…. 

                          AND seriously, when you see animal cruelty, doesn’t it just break your heart no matter that you’re not an animal lover? COMPASSION! 

                          It’s not that hard…. DON’T be cruel to anyone/thing!!! 

                          Don’t be nasty to anyone less fortunate than YOU! 

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