I can’t seem to cry….

[cinnybun2015]

My beloved bun, Cinnamon, passed away on November 10th. I cried my eyes out that day. But now, I can’t seem to cry. Please don’t loathe me for this- I really, really loved Cinnamon and I miss her so much. But I can’t cry. Has anybody else ever had this experience? Please give advice. 

[Liv]

Hi cinnybun. There is no reason to hate you. Losing a pet is traumatic, but no one can cry forever. Not crying does not reflect upon your character at all. Maybe it’s because your body is tired, or maybe you are bringing yourself back, ready to move forward. You will never stop thinking of and loving cinnamon but eventually, crying no longer is the answer. Living, loving, and sharing the memory of cinnamon is what I believe to be in your future. 

Sending love and good vibes <3 <3 <3

~liv

[Bam]

I think Liv is right.

Don’t blame yourself. Grief and love and loss are not in the tears, but someplace much deeper within you. Some people never cry. It doesn’t mean they don’t feel. You can’t measure loss in tears, that would be silly, he who sheds the largest volume of tears is the person who grieves the most? Of course not. That’s not the way it is.

[Avantika]

All of us here are bunny parents; some of who, like you, have already experienced the loss of their little ones. Some of us have not experienced it yet, but dread it deep inside. No one is going to loathe you. We might feel helpless as to how to make you feel better, like I am feeling right now. I wish I could give you a hug right now. You are a special person. Not everyone has the capacity to grieve so intensely for their animal buddy. I do believe that time will lessen the intensity of your pain. I also believe that you were an amazing bunny parent. Anybun thats going to be a part of your home in future would be lucky to have you as their hoomin. Cinnamon too, was. A lot of bunnies die a sudden death, which I agree is more difficult to cope with. Grieve all you want, but also take care of yourself. *hugs* ;_;

[cinnybun2015]

Liv, Bam, and Avantika- thank you so much for your heartfelt and caring replies. It really means a lot to me. I am so grateful that there is this forum to go to and ask questions and know I will not be judged. Thank you.

[Avantika]

We hope you will get better with time.

[Liv]

How are you doing Cinnybun? I saw a post about maybe getting a new bunny… have you found one? I hope that you’re feeling better,

Sending good vibes!
<3 Liv

[LongEaredLions]

I am so sorry for your loss. (((hugs)))
Everyone grieves in their own way, so don’t feel bad if you don’t feel like crying. What Bam said is exactly right. <3

[Sr. Melangell]

Oh Cinnybun, I’m so sorry to hear this, but I know what you mean, Cinnamon knew you loved her and we know you loved her too, no one here is upset or angry in anyway that you are not crying, we all have different ways to cope with things, sending you hugs from Me and Olly xx

[cinnybun2015]

Liv- I am thinking of adopting a new bunny in January of 2016. I am feeling better, thank you so much.

[cinnybun2015]

LongEaredLions, Pinky, and Avantika- thank you as well for commenting. As I said, I am feeling better. Time is healing. Of course I am still sad, but I’m better. Thank you so much for your caring responses and good vibes.

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