** Keep in mind those hormones. I’ve learned (from here!) that it can take 4-6 weeks for them to settle, sometimes a little longer. **
This situation sounds like my Bumpy when we first got him. We brought him home Aug 8, 2013. He was neutered Oct 7, 2013. In my opinion, it’s still very soon. I think we were rushing him and it took quite awhile to get him to even want to come near us on his own terms. Reading your thread here reminds me of when I was looking for explanations and opinions. I have started about 10 threads since joining BB, so my “Topics Started” part of my profile is pretty short and it was easy for me to find what might be helpful to your expectations in terms of bonding and time.
I invite you to read this one, from 02/13/14: https://binkybunny.com/FORUM/tabid/54/aft/129005/Default.aspx (note the date! remember, we got him 08/08/13) The responses in that thread have some advice that may help you bond with your bun and you will also be able to see how some of the other members’ buns acted too.
I ended up using food to help, and he wasn’t food oriented either -UNTIL- I took his pellet feeding away, sometime in April. He loves his pellets (don’t they all?!), so I decided to cut that from his feeding schedule and use those as treats. Basically, he would come to me several times throughout the day begging for treats (pellets). I could freely hand feed him one at a time or place tiny piles down on the chair next to me so he’s “sit with me”. I didn’t have to worry about him having too many, since it was his daily allowance. I did eventually stop doing this on a regular basis because the hubby complained that it was making him aggressive when it came to putting food/water in his cage. Which made sense, since our hands were the food source. You just had to be really careful and like trick him into thinking your hand was going in one direction. I’d lower my hand down, he’d jump up and be all excited about my hand approaching and try to get whatever it was from me, in fast and darting motions. I learned by doing a circle-motion around him, he’d spin to follow my hand, and as he was spinning, when he was facing away from my hand, I’d be able to place the bowl or whatever it was inside his pen.
I will quote myself from another thread of mine, “in search of thoughtful opinions”, from 06/09/14. So basically 4 months after the above mentioned thread, and TEN months after Bumpy first coming to our home. It was when we were thinking about getting a rabbit companion for him. In that thread I said:
“Bumpy loves the dogs, and me (apparently with all the licks I get) and seems happy”
“He is happy. He hops around and follows the dogs and hops up in the chair beside me or, runs up and bumps me and sit by my feet and licks my legs. He grooms me at least an hour throughout the day. He loves head pets.”
“I’m afraid he’ll wanna spend more time with a bunny and I would definitely miss this new bun he’s become.”
We did end up getting 2 new buns, and not too much later the hand-feeding of pellets stopped. Now he is back to not wanting anything to do with me, unless it involves treats. He barely acknowledges our existence. None of my rabbits are bonded now, but he much more prefers laying beside Bonnie on opposite sides of the pen, than sitting next to me. But I’m willing to bet if I gave him half-ration of pellets and began hand-feeding him again, he’d start hanging around me more.
Sorry about the long-winded post! I just wanted to convey my experience and similar feelings.