DancingBun 
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| 08/30/2010 06:11 PM |
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All my friends say I'm stupid for being "obsessed" with my bunny. Um excuse me, but I didn't realize it was stupid to love your pet?  They all ask me why I would get a rabbit spayed because it's "a waste of money." I told them that if Luna doesn't get spayed she'll be at a high risk for getting cancer. This is their response, "So? Just get a new one if it dies. Rabbits are cheap and it's not like they have a personality." Uh rabbits have NO personality?! They clearly don't have a clue what they're talking about AT ALL!  It completely irked me to hear them say this. |
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jerseygirl
Australia
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| 08/30/2010 06:24 PM |
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Wow. These are your friends?
Even if it weren't about rabbits, I would expect friends to be supportive and not judgemental. I would ask them to be a bit more sensitive to what you find important and that they not make such strong comments about things they have no experience with. I guess there will always be times when others opinions will clash badly with our own. Let it roll off you and do what you think is right. |
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DancingBun
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| 08/30/2010 06:29 PM |
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These are mostly guy friends saying this. They probably think they sound "macho" by saying this but really, they're just making themselves sound like jerks. |
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Michelle&Lolli
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| 08/30/2010 07:05 PM |
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Try not to take it personally. While he never made comments like this, my dad was VERY skeptical at first of Eddie. Maybe it's a male thing, but none of the men I've told about my rabbits have ever really understood it. They can't believe they have personality, can be litter box trained, etc. My dad still doesn't think mine should be free in my apartment and that I should spend money on them at the vet, etc. But he doesn't say anything cause he's my dad and he knows how much I love my furbutts. Maybe men can't seem to wrap their heads around rabbits as pets because most of them wouldn't choose to get one themselves. |
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MirBear
Kitchener, Ont. Ca.
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| 08/30/2010 07:14 PM |
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Posted By DancingBun on 08/30/2010 06:11 PM
All my friends say I'm stupid for being "obsessed" with my bunny. Um excuse me, but I didn't realize it was stupid to love your pet? They all ask me why I would get a rabbit spayed because it's "a waste of money." I told them that if Luna doesn't get spayed she'll be at a high risk for getting cancer. This is their response, "So? Just get a new one if it dies. Rabbits are cheap and it's not like they have a personality." Uh rabbits have NO personality?! They clearly don't have a clue what they're talking about AT ALL! It completely irked me to hear them say this.
Don't worry, my own mom says the same stuff to me.. she wont let me have mine spayed as she says why spend $400 on a $15 bunny thats only going to live a few years.
mind you she finally admits that they do have personality.. after she spent some time with hershey and had twix purring  but don't listen to them.. pass it off as jokes. you always have us, we dont critisize you, we understand. they dont. were like our own species |
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Monkeybun
Hillsboro, Oregon
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| 08/30/2010 07:17 PM |
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Posted By bunbuns1 on 08/30/2010 07:05 PM
Try not to take it personally. While he never made comments like this, my dad was VERY skeptical at first of Eddie. Maybe it's a male thing, but none of the men I've told about my rabbits have ever really understood it. They can't believe they have personality, can be litter box trained, etc. My dad still doesn't think mine should be free in my apartment and that I should spend money on them at the vet, etc. But he doesn't say anything cause he's my dad and he knows how much I love my furbutts. Maybe men can't seem to wrap their heads around rabbits as pets because most of them wouldn't choose to get one themselves.
My hubby adores our little fluffballs  |
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DancingBun
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| 08/30/2010 07:35 PM |
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That's why I love this site so much! We can talk about our little fluffballs and others actually understand!  I have one guy friend who loves Luna to death! I even had him watch her when I couldn't take her with on a family trip. He's great with her and came to my house twice a day to play with her and care for her. After a week of that he even wanted a bun for himself! So it shows not all guys have to be Mr. Macho all the time (Thank goodness!) I will just pass it off as a joke. However, I won't allow one friend to even go near Luna because he tells me that he'd chase her and try to scare her. I definitely wouldn't put her through that :\ |
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LizzieKnittyBun
Broomfield, CO
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| 08/30/2010 08:57 PM |
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rar! That would irritate me tremendously.
Just goes to show what people assume when they have absolutely no idea what they're talking about! |
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LoveChaCha
Washington
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| 08/30/2010 10:48 PM |
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Roar
My boyfriend ADORES my bunny, my dad LOVES her also!
I find that rude about what your male friend said about 'So? Just get a new one!' Rabbits cannot be replaced. We owners will move on, but, that bunny is forever in our hearts. And saying SO to cancer, pet or not, just hurts 
I would ignore those buttheads. It isn't THEIR pet. They obviously are stupidheads  |
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LizzieKnittyBun
Broomfield, CO
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| 08/30/2010 10:49 PM |
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I agree wholeheartedly with Brittany. Total stupidheads.
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bunnymum16
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| 08/31/2010 01:14 AM |
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dont listen to what other people says.like the saying..'the worth of an object(pet) is determined by the owner'..not other people. |
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MirBear
Kitchener, Ont. Ca.
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| 08/31/2010 07:29 AM |
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deffinatly stupidheads!!! (: |
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GHbun
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| 08/31/2010 09:04 AM |
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It's too bad that no matter how stupid people are, they're never stupid enough to not know how to open their mouths. |
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Andi
B.C. Canada
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| 08/31/2010 09:42 AM |
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I agree with jerseygirl and many of the other comments.
I think we have all had these kind of comments, my one responce is to tell explain that i too thought rabbits were bouring, as I had only met them stuck in small hutches, that made them depressed. Rabbits who have time to run around and interact with you are more like a cat or dog and each one has a different personality.
I find letting them know a small fact can sometimes help people understand. Like the "Rabbit Stew" comment that i am sure we've all heard more then we need to. There I just tell them, My rabbits are over a year old, it would be like eating mutton and would taste aweful. That usually shuts them up.
I think people who make these rude comments (with no facts, it's like poop falling out there mouths when they open them) have little to no people skills, you don't have to agree, but it's called common sence and courtosy to not insult ones feelings or belifes (Your kid is ugly, am I going to tell you that? No.). I have said good by to a few 'friends' who were not able to keep the rude/hurtfull comments to themselves even after I told them straight out it hurts me.
I think age also play a part (though not always). I'll never forget when i was a teen and had my guy friends over. I had my rescued and well mentally ill gerbil running around in her ball on the floor. That ball was her reason to live, she seriously loved it so much and it had taken me quite some time to tame her enough that i could get her in it (I could not touch her), This one boy felt it'd be funny to spin her rapidly inside the ball, I screamed at him, ran over stoped the ball to find her seizuring in the bottom of it.... she never went in the ball again, she was to scared.
I swiftly kicked him out of my home, and told him he would never be welcome back again.
I fell the same with peoples children, and so they are not allowed to visit my pets unsupervised, and if they try to harrass my animals they are not welcome back.
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DancingBun
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| 08/31/2010 10:52 AM |
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He spun the ball while your gerbil was in it?! So inhumane  I'm sorry to hear he did that! I would have literally KICKED him out. I let my two young neighbors visit with Luna once before. They just sat there, this is the quietest I've ever seen them. One asked me "Why does she have baby feet in the front and big feet in the back?" I thought it was so adorable since his eyes got super wide when he asked hehe. I was surprised they didn't even try to touch her and just looked. How sad that little 4-5 year old kids can be more polite than 17 year old boys. My 28 year old brother thinks he's being funny when he makes comments about rabbit stew. I'll use that fact to shut him up next time he says it. -.- I totally agree Brittany! They're total stupidheads! |
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Andi
B.C. Canada
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| 08/31/2010 11:03 AM |
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Some kids are just so awesome, 'baby feet' lol, so true. This weekend as i walked around the Vineyard event with PitStop in my arms, meeting and greeting, I had Adults ask to look at his tiny feet, they thought his little toes were the cutest thing. I've never been asked till then "can i see his toes?" Yeah, the gerbil was inside I am still mad over this. Never would i ever though a 19yr old (or anyone over 10) would think it funny to spin an animal inside a ball as entertainment. Though, i did meet a bunny who was put in a microwave by two 12 yr old boys.... Tino is the bunny and though his ears are all wrecked he is in good health and lives with a rabbit crazy lady who got him two girlfriend bunnies to live with |
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DancingBun
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| 08/31/2010 11:15 AM |
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I love bunny feet Wow people are stupid ):< putting a living animal in the microwave?! I'm glad Tino found a better home though. |
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babybunsmum
Waterloo ON Canada
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| 08/31/2010 12:26 PM |
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*rolls eyes* total stupidheads is right! i've run into this type of attitude many times. my response is to look at them with my best you-know-better-than-that look. you know... when you look at them as if over the top of reading glasses, furrow your brow and tilt your head slightly. some times adding a "come on. get serious" is called for too. note that you have to hold the 'look' until they shut up. |
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skibunny8503
Champion, OH
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| 08/31/2010 12:33 PM |
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I hate when guys talk that way just to be macho. It makes them so unattractive! My husband absolutely adores our rabbits (and everyone else's on BB, he's a lurker on here!). I know a few people that make jokes about rabbit stew and I know they're just joking around but it does get to me. The longer we've had the rabbits the less they joke though. My brother-in-law would make jokes but when he called us up about finding that california rabbit in his yard, I saw his other side and he really did care for the hurt rabbit. So deep down there is a soft side in guys, it's just hard to see in some. I really don't see the difference between a rabbit, dog, cat or even baby, you love them all the same and would do anything for them (or at least for me I would )
If those guys always make jokes about you having rabbits then what I would do is probably not discuss rabbits around them because they might just give you a hard time all the time. But they really should respect you more. |
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MirBear
Kitchener, Ont. Ca.
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| 08/31/2010 04:01 PM |
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we should start a pictuure tread for skibubby's hubby :p |
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| My Siamese Sweethearts, Hershey & Twix........... <3
And In My Attempted Un-selfish Thoughts I Find Myself Thinking... If This Is The Best I Can Do With Just My Thoughts, Than What Is The Best That Can Be Done By Someone Who Has Not Only my Thoughts But The Chance To Make Them A Reality? |
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Monkeybun
Hillsboro, Oregon
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| 08/31/2010 04:07 PM |
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Hmmm. i should make Smudgie do some cute things so I can take a ton of pics for a Smudge thread. *nods* |
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MirBear
Kitchener, Ont. Ca.
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| 08/31/2010 04:10 PM |
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deffinatly do that mb |
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| My Siamese Sweethearts, Hershey & Twix........... <3
And In My Attempted Un-selfish Thoughts I Find Myself Thinking... If This Is The Best I Can Do With Just My Thoughts, Than What Is The Best That Can Be Done By Someone Who Has Not Only my Thoughts But The Chance To Make Them A Reality? |
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katiep
Ohio
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| 08/31/2010 05:13 PM |
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Um...my bunnies would like to thump your friends on the head for saying they have no personality....and everybun...bunny butt to the "friends"! |
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Sarita
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Farmers Branch, Texas (Dallas)
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| 09/01/2010 09:56 AM |
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The older you get, the less you will care what people say about your rabbits and what you do. |
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skibunny8503
Champion, OH
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| 09/01/2010 11:00 AM |
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Posted By MirBear on 08/31/2010 04:01 PM
we should start a pictuure tread for skibubby's hubby :p
He got all excited when I told him someone suggested a thread of bunny pictures just for him  |
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bunnytowne
florida
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| 09/01/2010 02:23 PM |
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Yet we have to sit through their boring stories of their kids. Ha. My bunny is more interesting than your kid lol
Thats how I feel at the masjid. When I said I had a baby gate to keep cotton out of the bedroom and ruby in my friend looked shocked and laughed and said a baby gate. She really had no idea. She is more interested in the kids since she runs the masjid sunday school. Thats ok. I know she didnt' mean any insult.
They do ask how my buns are though. They care but some just don't get it. lol. Then others like to hear the funny stories.
Now as far as being told so what if they get cancer etc I never hear that.
Except from hubby he says I waste $ taking them to the vet. HE isn't so bad now that I have bun ins. |
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jerseygirl
Australia
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| 09/01/2010 10:29 PM |
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Yet we have to sit through their boring stories of their kids. Ha. My bunny is more interesting than your kid lol LOL Oh BT, I love you. lolol |
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jerseygirl
Australia
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| 09/01/2010 10:38 PM |
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DancingBun, I understand now you have said it was 17 yr old guys that said it. Makes more sense. Not all are like this of course but many say stuff without much thought. Especially when more sensitive comments are needed. In my own teens, I remember a guy once blurted out something really inappropriate when I'd said about losing a dog over the weekend. I think it's because he didn't know how to act around someone who was upset. Yet it was another guy the same age that cautioned him. He could empathize as he had a famliy dog and talked about it all the time. |
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LoveChaCha
Washington
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| 09/01/2010 11:13 PM |
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Oh, but bunnies are more entertaining than kids
THEY DON'T CRY |
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Monkeybun
Hillsboro, Oregon
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| 09/02/2010 12:51 AM |
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And they don't need college funds. And you can lock em up if they are misbehaving without getting yourself arrested.
I <3 bunnies. lol |
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