 MirBearKitchener, Ont. Ca.
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| 08/19/2010 04:11 PM |
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when i finish highschool, i plan on going strait into university and i plan on getting an apartment not living in a dorm. no matter how close the university is to my moms house. i cant stand living here unfortunatly. Anyways i talked to my mom today, and the closest thing to a comprimise i could get was, if i keep one bunny, she will "consiter" building a hutch and pen outdoors. witch means. i would keep hershey, obviously. and she would live in a hutch with a pen attached, all year round, untill she dies or i move out, whatever comes first. This is the best "comprimise" i'll get for a bigger living space. |
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| My Siamese Sweethearts, Hershey & Twix........... <3
And In My Attempted Un-selfish Thoughts I Find Myself Thinking... If This Is The Best I Can Do With Just My Thoughts, Than What Is The Best That Can Be Done By Someone Who Has Not Only my Thoughts But The Chance To Make Them A Reality? |
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| 08/19/2010 04:14 PM |
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You are willing to give up Twix? |
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 MirBearKitchener, Ont. Ca.
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| 08/19/2010 04:27 PM |
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i am willing to give her up, to the right home of course. don't get my wrong though. i love twix dearly but hershey's very special to me. and if it comes down to it, i hate to say it but i would choose her over anything. |
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| My Siamese Sweethearts, Hershey & Twix........... <3
And In My Attempted Un-selfish Thoughts I Find Myself Thinking... If This Is The Best I Can Do With Just My Thoughts, Than What Is The Best That Can Be Done By Someone Who Has Not Only my Thoughts But The Chance To Make Them A Reality? |
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 MonkeybunHillsboro, Oregon
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| 08/19/2010 05:21 PM |
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Personally, Mirbear, when you go to universtiy, go to a dorm. Apartments are expensive, especially if you are a full time student. You'll have rent, utilities, groceries, transportation costs... it adds up, quickly. Dorm living isn't that bad, my hubby did it, and he's still great friends with his college roomies. He made a ton of friends that he wouldn't have, had he not lived in his dorm, and he's had those friends for over 15 years now. Some dorms do allow pets... small ones like bunnies anyway. Look into it. |
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 MirBearKitchener, Ont. Ca.
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| 08/19/2010 06:03 PM |
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monkey i deffinatly will... i've been told that their expensive though.
omg i cant belive its going to be only 2 more years... wow. it seems like just yesterday i was in kindergarden i miss kindergarden.. |
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| My Siamese Sweethearts, Hershey & Twix........... <3
And In My Attempted Un-selfish Thoughts I Find Myself Thinking... If This Is The Best I Can Do With Just My Thoughts, Than What Is The Best That Can Be Done By Someone Who Has Not Only my Thoughts But The Chance To Make Them A Reality? |
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 jerseygirlAustralia
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| 08/19/2010 06:04 PM |
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Mir, I caution you not rehome one because there might be a chance of getting what you want fot the other. If history regarding your rabbits tells you anything, I think you might be disappointed. You opened this thread saying your Mom wanted you to get rid of them because they were always the cause of your arguments. It might have been something said in the heat of the moment. Is she actually wanting you to get rid of both of them or was this a vague threat?
If I were in your shoes, I would not even bring up anything about the rabbits with your Mom except when it's absolutely necessary. It's obviously a sensitive topic for reasons you don't know nor may ever know. I really think your best bet is to make the best of what they have and make your own improvements on that when you can. They have good shelter, lots of attention from you and a nice yard to exercise in.
If you can get an independant income, you can work on making their habitat more comfortable. You'll have some freedom to do this if it's your own money. Is there an opportunity to do that? Even if you need your Moms permission to do this, I would broach it with your wanting to have some independance and not have to ask her for money for things. You needn't specify that you might be spending money on the rabbits if you think she would disapprove. Not that I'm advocating keeping secrets from her.....just thinking the less you bring them up with her the better. In time, you never know....she might be impressed by your efforts and want to contribute.
That's how I would go about things. Though I KNOW if I was your age I WOULD be having arguments too!! I remember all to well going insane not understanding my parents reasonings for things - mostly because they would just say No and not always specify their reasoning. *Sigh* |
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 MirBearKitchener, Ont. Ca.
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| 08/19/2010 06:15 PM |
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yep, she wants me to get rid of the both, if i gave her her way they'd be long gone by now, and she wouldn't care where they went, even if they were for meat she wouldnt care. i'm so confused.... since we've moved she wants absolutly nothing to do with the rabbits. not that she was overly interested in them before we moved, but at least she let them in the house and would even go up and pet hershey or something. now i get in trouble for even having hershey on the porch. i really wish she'd just let me do what i wanted to do with them, then she could see its really not so bad. like ive set up the x-pen and had twix in it and showed her, she was coming around to it then twix started being territorial about her new space and my mom turned around and said, i dont want them messing on the floors. i tryed to explain about them being territorial, but she didn't belive me. |
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| My Siamese Sweethearts, Hershey & Twix........... <3
And In My Attempted Un-selfish Thoughts I Find Myself Thinking... If This Is The Best I Can Do With Just My Thoughts, Than What Is The Best That Can Be Done By Someone Who Has Not Only my Thoughts But The Chance To Make Them A Reality? |
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 LisHampton Roads
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| 09/08/2010 10:12 PM |
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Monkey, I live off campus - and can honestly say that my apartment is about half the cost of living on campus, even after factoring in utilities. I don't have trans costs, because my house is a block from campus. Also, my 80 meal a semester plan was $994, the 3 meal a day plans were about $2500. Mine averages to $8.45 a meal, once I factor out the $300 set aside by my plan to be spent at chains inside my university. It's much cheaper to cook my own food. My boyfriend says he and his roommate buy about $50 in groceries each week to share, and they have no meal plans. On the flip side, Mir, many schools require you to live on campus your freshman year. And many schools require you to have a meal plan if you live on campus. Unless you're a transfer, like I am. See if there's a Community College near you. Dual enroll and see if you can rack up 30 credits there when you finish with high school. Then you're a transfer. I must find these dorms that allow bunnies. I've heard of dorms that allow fish and hermit crabs, but never bunnies. I say keep your babies. If she's not willing to compromise, you shouldn't be either. It sounds like if you give in any, she'll ask you to give even more. |
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 RabbitPamSouth Florida
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| 09/09/2010 02:18 AM |
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Hi, Guys, I just want to add a gentle reminder that the Support Center is really for those who have just lost a bunny, or one is in a dire illness and things are imminent. I can see why Mirbear posted at the prospect of losing her bunny, but it's helpful to post those kinds of questions in the Q&A section, so you will get more immediate answers. This section is more for condolences. We found that many were posting a loss of a loved one in other sections and not getting their posts noticed, so we put them here so we are sure to offer our support to those who are grieving. Also, be certain to read the date of a post before replying. It's possible that a post over 2 weeks old has been resolved, or has been updated in a newer post. It pulls up an older situation and can be confusing. So read the dates before you reply. If you want to check the person who posted to see if they did an update anywhere, just click their name with their avatar and look at the list of posts they've made in their profile. Thanks. |
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Have your people call my people. We'll do carrots. |
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 MirBearKitchener, Ont. Ca.
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| 09/09/2010 01:05 PM |
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Thanks RP. Lis, it was nice to read your post, the university i want to go to is in waterloo. wilfrid laurier university. Anyways that about a 10 minute drive from my house. and if i dont get into there or if i choose a different proffesion in the next few years then i'll probably be going to university of waterloo or conastoga collage. also very close. |
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| My Siamese Sweethearts, Hershey & Twix........... <3
And In My Attempted Un-selfish Thoughts I Find Myself Thinking... If This Is The Best I Can Do With Just My Thoughts, Than What Is The Best That Can Be Done By Someone Who Has Not Only my Thoughts But The Chance To Make Them A Reality? |
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| 09/13/2010 12:20 PM |
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I can of course understand your "favoratizim" I would definetely chose my baby guinea over bean (no offense bean!) As I love them both, but hes more dear to me. Can you get a "foster" situation? maybe you can get a friend to foster twix, then when your ready, you can take him back. That way, in the end, you have hershey and twix, and you dont need to worry about mom. Heres a website on getting your pets into a dorm, http://www.bestcollegesonline.net/b...o-college/ . I hope this sorts out. I wish i could help more! right now i wanna hop in the car and drive over, and scream at your mom until she lets the buns in  |
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 MirBearKitchener, Ont. Ca.
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| 09/13/2010 04:19 PM |
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Kyoshi, thats a great website i'm going to store that. i've still got 2 years before uni :\ (please come faster!)
As for fostering, i just moved recently and have no friends in my area, and all of the friends i keep in contact with all have dogs that dont mix with small animals. : \ so far i've worked it out a bit to my liking . were buying a dog run off of someone (when ever they decide to show up, its been like 2 weeks) and i'm going to seperate it down the middle then they'll each have nice big cages, then within a few weeks i'll hopefully get a job and will then pay for spaying them. my mom isn't happy.
i talked to her a few minutes ago about getting a gym membership and she totally freaked -.- she makes me move away from my highschool, the area i grew up in and all of my friends. she confines me to the yard like a 2 year old, ( not like she didn't do that before) and when i talk about staying fit she says you have to keep up with that ( i used to jogg everyday plus my last highschool had a gym) and now i can't jogg, my school doesnt have a gym i can't take my bunnies in the house even for play time without getting yelled at. i've given so much and she wont give me anything. it makes me want to cry.. |
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| My Siamese Sweethearts, Hershey & Twix........... <3
And In My Attempted Un-selfish Thoughts I Find Myself Thinking... If This Is The Best I Can Do With Just My Thoughts, Than What Is The Best That Can Be Done By Someone Who Has Not Only my Thoughts But The Chance To Make Them A Reality? |
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