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    • Kokaneeandkahlua
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        While I know it’s probably not the right time, Dave came home this week having bought the newspaper for a reason-and even showed it ot me. This dear sweet dog had been saved from a reserve but had to have an eye removed. Now Dave and I have been keeping an eye on the ad’s for special needs dogs keeping in mind with what we can and can’t cope with (not bills but really living-can the dog go to the dog park, can it exercise, is this a serious incontinence issue that requires someone retired or home all the time, or just at lunch -which I do come home for lunch) We’ve kind of been deciding what special needs we can deal with and what we can’t -and this dog seemed perfect. Not blind, not deaf, not disabled etc. Gorg-passed Dave’s thing of ‘up’ ears.

        I didn’t want to push as if it’s right it will happen. DAve and I decided if he was still there today we’d see him and then bring Mikey for the adoption process tomorrow. And he was gone.

         

        I even told my vet about him-because I thought she’d be all ‘LESLEY NO!” but she was so awesome-I’m like *holding up meds and syringes* ‘I know it’s not a good time’ …. 

        I don’t mind in that-someone like me saw his story-was prepared for a physical special needs dog and fell in love and was approved and brought him home. And with Chuck sick I don’t need more work (With laundry, dogpark and meds-I hardly eat dinner!) but but but he was lovely and I am so diappointed. I even told my mom tonight-I didn’t before because I knew she’d reem me out for spending more money on vet bills (except hypocrite has the expensive cancer dog lol) but she didn’t-she was sad we didn’t get him too. So now I’m just feeling so sad we didn’t get him. I’ve cruised ALL the listings for special needs pets in NA for years-there really isn’t one I’m interested in that’s available-besides Tippy and Nadia which couldn’t happen until we move…  

         

        Anyways just needed to vent-didn’t want to push that with DAve and me-but I feel like we missed out  


      • Monkeybun
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          Awww thats too bad, but at least he has a home, right? Another pup will come along that needs you, and you will be there


        • MimzMum
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            Wow, K&K, You have so much heart! ^_^ I applaud you, even though I would think that this would be more work than you really needed right now, but I know when a dog is in need and you just want to make it all better for them it’s hard to resist.

            As hard as it has been with Taiku and Shadow’s passings, each time I have found my inner voice is still saying, ‘find another dog to help-maybe one of them will return with to you’. But of course I simply can’t do it. I won’t get another dog again in what’s left of my lifetime, I’m sure. But if I did, it would have to be one that I could spoil rotten…feed nothing but steak and chicken and fish right out of my own oven and spend all my time with. (I will do my utmost never to support the commercial animal food industry again, since I don’t doubt all those years of crappy kibble is probably what contributed to all my dogs falling ill as they did.)

            And of course it would have to be okay with the hubby…but even as devastated as he is, I can see him bringing home something at some point before I would now and me looking at him and asking “what did we agree on??” lol….(He keeps talking about all these dogs or puppies he’s been seeing around lately…it’s driving me nuts. I know darn well he’s done though.)

            It’s just amazing to me all the room you have in your heart for these companions…I wish I was still young enough myself to feel this way and be capable of handling it all emotionally and financially. I had more stray animals come to me as a kid than you would believe and I always wanted to keep them all. Even the heartbreak at the end of life is something I wouldn’t give up for the joy they give and that we can return to them.

            Luckily for now, I think I’ve caught my limit. ^_^


          • Kokaneeandkahlua
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              Awww Mimz *hugs* I know you’ll get another dog You’re just like my mom-she says never again and it’s hearbreaking and then she says ‘Mandy’ when my dad comes home with a pup I know -no matter the animal-they are lucky to end up in your househould-no -beyond lucky My mom has always said ‘this is it’ and then you know-caved.

              It’s hard-they are darling-that’s why they are darling-so we look after them-sneaky buggers

              You and me *cheers* when the time is right We’ll share the new fuzzy who gets to live with us *cheers*


            • jerseygirl
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                Remember – Mikey was returned to the rescue, was it 2-3 times? Did you and Dave put your names forward anyway incase the current adopter finds they can’t cope?

                Another way to look at it is you didn’t get him because you guys are meant for another dog. One that hasn’t come onto your horizon yet.
                I love that you want Tippy & Nadia! They are a great pair. You’d have to get their Godfathers approval though? hehe


              • Kokaneeandkahlua
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                  Remember – Mikey was returned to the rescue, was it 2-3 times? Did you and Dave put your names forward anyway incase the current adopter finds they can’t cope?

                  Mikey 4 times I wish I could this shelter is a first come first serve. Though I have been thinking about putting out what I want in speical needs to the big special needs shelters and rescues

                   

                  Another way to look at it is you didn’t get him because you guys are meant for another dog. One that hasn’t come onto your horizon yet.
                  I love that you want Tippy & Nadia! They are a great pair. You’d have to get their Godfathers approval though? hehe

                  I’d love to take them but I think they would be best for a retired couple who is home all the time. I don’t think days alone is best for them. But I’d love to have them-take them both (+ Coco on petfinder-9 year old dutch -I’ve had my eye on him for almost six months now-AND I’ve made a friend who drives trucks and will transport a rescue to me for her job-I’m beyond tempted!!). Markbun suggest Tippy to me when I was looking at Chuck and I wanted him but he was not adoptable at the time-and now bonded I’m so glad I didn’t -they do best in pairs and now Chuck has Noot and Tippy has Nadia-=it all worked out

                  Yeah that’s why I didn’t want to push Dave or the situation-if it was meant to be it would happen. So now I just wait and hope that it’s soon that it’s meant to be


                • RabbitPam
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                    K&K, if you really felt strongly compelled to get this guy, you can always drop a note to the shelter to say “if he comes back, call me. I’ll meet him.” and that way he’s got you as a back up. But he’s a happy dog with a new home now, and that’s probably best for him, don’t you think?

                    I would wait on giving out your name for disabled dogs in general, just because you said you’ve seen many and only this one prompted you to want to take him home.

                    Forgive the amateur analysis, but you guys are all dealing with disabled pets at the end of their lives, and one of the things that can happen is that you get into a routine of care taking, you feel you are making a significant difference at the end of their lives, and you are also emotionally distancing yourself in preparation for losing them. So you have a very busy “job’ that may end soon, and abruptly. Another disabled pet continues that routine for you. And continues your relationship with vets and medical people you basically like. (My friends and I once said we needed to throw a party and invite our Dr. and her staff just because we all had to stop getting sick just to visit with them.)

                    I actually think both you, MM, and both of your husbands are looking to the immediate future when checking out puppies and other available dogs, or bunnies. They can’t replace Taiku, Shadow, or Chuck (when his time comes), but they can fill the hole of attention and focus of love you’re used to giving daily. So don’t say Never Again, and discount your hubbys’ inclinations. It’s very healing really. And those puppies give lots of hope for fun again, though the idea of years with puppy energy can be daunting, so an older dog can really appeal to us all, too.

                    I personally think that your next pets will find you. Usually with a little help from the ones you’ve lost. I was NOT going to get a female bunny from a pet shop. No way. Until Sammy met me. Sigh.


                  • MimzMum
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                      I’m in the fury stage of grieving presently. All the signs I should’ve paid attention to that I didn’t. And my mind is arguing with my heart that it can’t believe we actually put Shadow down…as if it didn’t happen, which has me ambivalent about my mental faculties. So when the hub comes in and tells me he’s seen the cutest little Aussie Shep puppy today, I’m ready to pack him a bag.

                      I’m afraid I would want another husky and he’s talking about the AS that his childhood friend had that he claims was smart as a whip. There will be no agreement and honestly, thanking you for a spot on analysis, Pam-because yes, you get so used to caregivng that you can’t imagine not-I’m really wishing I could simplify my life now, not complicate it further. This is a time when I need to stay strong and say no, to him and myself…and I need to hang on to that frame of mind so I don’t have to continue this cycle.

                      When I have to go in to be strong for him at an end of life decision…it’s time to stop.

                      And this is fatalistic, I know, but I don’t know how many years I have left…it’s what you think of after having battled chronic disease in yourself or a loved one…and I wouldn’t want any animal companion of mine to be resigned to the shelter if something should happen to me suddenly. (Kids have little to no sense of responsibility when it comes to pets at this point in their lives and to get another animal friend who may live another 20 years?? How do I know I’ve got that long??) As it is, we’ve still got the three buns and three cats and I feel like it’s a struggle right now just to keep myself going for them.

                      I know I won’t always be this depressed though…so I’m trying to keep myself thinking sensibly for when I finally snap out of it.

                      And sorry for rambling, so…to bring this subject back on topic…I do think it might be a good idea to leave your name at the shelter, K&K…not for just any dog, but for this one…just in case. What’s the least that can happen, right? ^_^

                      Believe me…I keep thinking of this guy who was on our radio trade show for the last two weeks who was getting rid of their 2 year old Mack Husky male that “they didn’t have time for anymore”….you know how badly I wanted to get his address just so I could smack him upside the head?? ~_~ I should have done, just for my piece of mind!

                      Edited to ad: lol…whoops…wrong piece…I meant PEACE of mind…but a piece of mind is what I would’ve given…lmao!


                    • Elrohwen
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                        Aww, now that I’m looking for a second bun, I definitely know how you feel! I’m also guilty of getting my hopes up a bit too much sometimes and getting let down. I’m sure you guys will find an awesome special needs pup to take in 🙂

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