A sack of woe…uplifting vibes, please?

[MimzMum]

I really dislike this time of year up here in the North. And with all the different things that have happened in the last three months, I am already on a downslide. It doesn’t help that this week the temps are colder than a witch’s boob under a well-digger’s butt.

First of all, with my son going up to Uni..now he’s settled in pretty well and all, just turned 20 yesterday. But while he likes his new independence, he is not doing great in his classes. Background worry there. His social life at college has me greatly concerned, having been as sheltered as he’s always been while he was still living at home. He has added a (first) girlfriend now and where I’m happy for him, I fear that this will just be more distraction for him, not that he’s not good at distracting himself anyway (XBOX, movies, parties, etc.) Gotta button my lip though. He’s an adult and has to be allowed to make his own mistakes and learn. But I know how badly each one hurts. He knows what I expect of him, but heck…how many of us did what our folks expected when we were out on our own??

He went to the dentist today; 4 cavities, wisdom teeth moving in and a deformed jaw that causes it to pop when he opens it too far. Apparently it can get stuck that way if he’s not careful. All I can do is pray; healing for the jaw, (not likely-there’s nothing the doc can do until the inevitable happens-then surgery) easy drilling for the caries, no impaction for the wisdom teeth, money from heaven to pay for it all…

He also has an eye appointment tomorrow, lump in the eye that he’s worried is cancer, thanks to me. We need vibes that it’s nothing and he’ll be fine.

My daughter continues to struggle with completing her GED. I feel like she’s going nowhere with it. Math is not her dish of cream. No urging from me helps (let’s face it…anything coming from me is just nagging now) She turns 18 in two weeks. Somehow, I wanted her to be graduated by then, and I thought she did too. I guess she needs vibes for comprehension and motivation.

To top this all off, the cold has forced us to bring the old dog indoors. (I don’t mind having him indoors, but I know he’s not entirely comfortable in our cramped quarters.) And in doing so, we now see just how badly his back and rear legs are getting. It’s like, when he thaws out, his muscles all relax and everything that was held together tightly enough to keep him upright is now melted away. He fell several times last night whenever my hubby had to take him out for walks. He just can’t hold himself up. My hubby seems close to wanting to put him down.

We got some Metacam for his pain at the vet today, and will try glucosamine/chondroitin/MSM for long term repair of his joints…but that alone takes 4-6 weeks. I am not entirely sure he will last that long, looking at him today. Plus he seems to have some breathing issues that I fear are more of those masses he had removed last January returning and invading inner tissues. He seemed to be doing better after the other dog passed…now I am not counting on him making it through the month, much less the rest of the winter.  We need healing vibes for  him.

I’ve missed my niece and nephew’s first birthday today and will catch heck for it. My gift and card will be late. My hubby’s family will make me feel the sting of that carelessness. I need to be whacked with the stupid stick, I guess.

I’m just so tired. So many things that are screaming at me for attention and all I want to do is sleep and forget that the sun still comes up in the morning. But even sleep doesn’t make my worries go away, because I dream about them all night. Most days I just want to chuck everything and say the heck with it all.

If it weren’t for the bunnies (and kitties too), I would be irretrievable at this point. (And the buns have their own problems…poor Pip is still shedding so bad I can hardly touch her without getting a grunt and a lunge. The cats are all on edge because Hello Kitty is inside for the witner and we have to alternate times for each to be out and excercising. This causes territory wars of the worst kind.)

It’s like the blows just keep coming and I can’t hold my hands up to guard my face anymore. Sorry to dump all this here…but I just don’t have anywhere else to turn.

And don’t even get me started about Thanksgiving and Christmas. Good grief, I am NOT interested! I wonder why most years we can’t just skip these next few months and get right back to Spring… Winter has to be the most useless of the seasons!

Even a slice of pumpkin pie with lots of whipped cream doesn’t sound good. When pie can’t cheer you up, what will??

*sinking*

 

 

[luvmybunny]

AWW MimzMum!! You poor thing! *BIG HUGS* I am so very sorry you are going through all of this at once. I know the Holidays dont’ help ease the stress either. I am going to keep you and your family (human and fur kids) in my prayers!

Just remember, that you have all of us here at BB. If you ever need to talk, send me a private message. I will be glad to listen and try to help. *Hugs*

Rach and the bunnies

[babybunsmum]

oh poo.  and i thought i was having a bad day.  sorry to hear you’re blue and have so many worries.  no advice othere than… i recommend having a good cry and then dedicating some solid time to have a well-deserved distraction from your troubles with one or more of the following:  watch a feel-good or comedy movie, listen to your fav uplifting or cheerful cd, list out 3 things in your life that you are very blessed to have, daydream about your fav actor (don’t tell hubby ), or find some how-to youtube vids on belly dancing and learn a few new moves.  i hope your funk lifts soon.   (((((((((mimz)))))))))

[Barbie]

Oh my goodness! I’m so sorry to hear about all this. Don’t you just hate it when everything gets dumped on you at once?!

I’m sending lots of happy vibes and survival vibes your way!!!!

Ok. To address a couple of the things you mentioned…
So many things that are screaming at me for attention and all I want to do is sleep and forget that the sun still comes up in the morning. But even sleep doesn’t make my worries go away, because I dream about them all night.

Keep a pad of paper by your bed. Before going to bed write down all the things that are concerning you – make a list, write a journal entry, write poems whatever. Or post on here!  Just get it out on paper so then you can throw it out of your mind and not have to worry about remembering everything you need to do and everything that’s going on. Preferably do this at a desk or the table, since the bedroom should only be used for sleeping and uh… you know I’ve heard that not reading/studying/watching tv/etc in your bedroom actually helps you sleep better since your body associates the bed and bedroom with sleep only and starts to relax when you get in bed rather than get amped up to do hw or whatever. Then if you wake up in the middle of the night turn on a soft bedside lamp (not the room light because the bright lights will mess up your circadian rhythm and wake you up more and make it harder to fall back asleep) write down whatever it was that was bothering you and then tell yourself to emtpy it from your head – you’ll worry about it when you’re awake. I do that sometimes when I have trouble falling asleep and it works WONDERS for me because I’m a bit of a control freak and one of those that will lay in bed for hours running through everything I have to do in my mind b/c I can’t get my brain to “shut off.”

As for your daughters math. I LOVE this site. http://tutorial.math.lamar.edu/Classes/Alg/Alg.aspx I linked to the algebra page cus I don’t know what she’s working on, but if you go to the tab at the top that says class notes, you can get to other levels of math. If she needs help, you can PM me and I can send you my email address and you can tell her to email me with questions. I don’t know how much help I’ll be, but I’ve had math through differential equations (darn you, engineering requirements!) and have probably at least touched on the stuff she’s working on now, so I can try to explain it better to her.

(((Healthy vibes for the doggy and son!))) (I’m looking at having to get my wisdom teeth out next summer and NOT excited for that :/ )

[Moonlight_Wolf]

colder than a witch’s boob under a well-digger’s butt.

LOL LOL Im sorry I just had to laugh at that, Ive never heard that expression, I should add it to the list of expressions i use daily.

Aww I am sorry MimzMum, it is always good to just let off steam, and that is what we are here for! Just take things one step at a time, and remember to laugh, even in the hardest times.
*hugs*

[Barbie]

Oh btw (and please forgive me if I’m completely off…) Isn’t now when you see the auroras? I’ve never been to Alaska (it’s on my wish list though!) so I have no idea, but I’ve seen videos and I think they are sooo freaking cool! So maybe watching them would cheer you up? It would me. Unless they’re not happening right now.

[MimzMum]

Barbie, you are a dear! Thank you for all these great ideas! *running off to check the math site* My girl is pretty uppity when it comes to having someone try to explain stuff (trust me, I’ve been there) but perhaps if it’s not coming from me she’ll be more interested. Thank you!
I had my wisdoms out when my daughter was three months old. Had to stop breastfeeding because of all the drugs they flooded me with. I had them put me out completely because I didn’t want to hear the sound of the crowbar they were going to have to use to get my impacted right rear out! 0_0 My sis-in-law drove me to and from and she had me laughing so hard after the surgery the doc kept coming in and giving her warning looks like he was going to throw her out of the office because I was supposed to be resting and coming out of the anesthesia gently…lol.

Not to worry you, certainly if you’ve got a good dentist, you don’t feel anything and they give you some nice painkillers afterwards! ^_^ I think I slept for the rest of the day and most of the next! xD

Thank you for the vibes also. It’s so good to know that we can come here, not just for assistance with bunny stuff…but life stuff as well, and find those who know just the right things to say. Bless you!

[Barbie]

Oh man, I would DEFINITELY have asked to be knocked out completely if they had to use a crowbar! Lol. Actually this summer I almost went to a dental surgeon to get it done. The dentist said he didn’t feel comfortable doing (THAT’S always reassuring) them cus they’re so far in right now, but I REALLY wanted them out before I had to go back to school since I know there’s some recovery time associated with it. Anyway, now I’m hoping I can hold out til next summer! Hehe, sisters are the best, aren’t they! I have a younger sis. And she’s annoying as heck but also lots of fun.

As for the math help, believe me – when I was in high school I wouldn’t listen to a WORD my mom said – so it’s not just you. I think every parent goes though the snotty teenage thing

Oh and tell your hubby’s family that the reason you sent the gift and card late was so that you niece and nephew could continue to celebrate their birthday – cus what kid DOESN’T wish they could have a birthday every day!

[MimzMum]

Moonlight Wolf, thank you also for your comforting words! Sorry, I scrolled so fast I missed seeing your post. Yup, that saying has been used around here for a long time…I think I learned it back in high school…and with much more coarse terms than I used here, which can be substituted for added effect. ^_^
BBM, and bunnymum, I want to thank you all too. I do remember a certain red panda YouTube video I used to cheer myself during Taiku’s illness…I can’t get over how adorable those creatures are!

Barbie, yes we get auroras, but after being here 15 years, well, I think I take them for granted. And it’s snowing now, so the cloud cover hides them.

[Monkeybun]

My dentist prescribed me vicodin after i got my tooth pulled… he’s great.

Monkey sends snuggles and nudges, hope it gets better for you soon!

[Kokaneeandkahlua]

MIMZ!!! *BIG GIANT BEAR HUGS* Awwww

This has been such a bad year for so many! I just can’t wait for the new year-I maybe silly but it seems all this craziness should be over by then *fingers are crossed*

A couple of ‘words of wisdom’ I’ve received that have helped me when low…

“If everyone threw our problems in a pile, and saw everyone else’s, we’d quickly grab our’s back”

And a wise BB member once said “No sense borrowing tomorrows pain” about worrying

I think they are both real pearls of wisdom.

Your son will shape up. We all messed up in first year uni :p too many parties and social events. Second year I’m SURE he’ll buckle down more

Your daughter-well no one likes math hehe You or hubby good at math? Perhaps you can help her with it and provide rewards for gate posts along the way (when she’s done a module she gets x , when she finishes the next she gets y) etc? I always resort to bribing kids though :p

On the darkness-have you looked into a GoLight? I bought mine at Costco-it’s a real UV lamp thingy. It gets dark super early here too, not like where you are but you know -it’s still depressing. I love it-I use it at work for an hour in the am and it helps a lot-helps wiht sleeping patterns too. It’s like this http://www.sadlight.com/

Don’t worry about hubby’s family. No one likes their inlaws heheh Seriously your stressed if they can’t appreciate that, well they can put it they know where!

{{{old dog healing vibes}}}

Get some wine and have a tub. Then cuddles with your furkids Or hang out on BB we’re all here

[katie, max & penny]

oh mimz!! regarding your son, i think barbie, liz, lara or any of our other university students will reaffirm this, but he has to learn his own lessons the hard way. i know you’re a worried mama, but college opens up a whole new set of experiences and you telling him to be careful will only make him more reckless, i think. my parents are verrrry overbearing and i find myself wanting to push the boundaries just to get them off my back (i don’t!). i think he just has to learn how to balance everything on his own.

the notebook idea is wonderful- i do that!

oh, and i’m like you’re daughter- the only thing i hate more than math is someone trying to explain it to me!! nothing makes me feel stupid-er. i hope that website helps.

(((((vibes for doggy, hubby’s family, son, daughter, everyone’s health and happiness!!!)))))

[jerseygirl]

{{{((((Many wellness of mind, spirit and body vibes to you MimzMum))))}}} Hope thinks brighten for you. HUGS and bunny bumps to you from Jersey & Rumball.

 

I know Youtube takes a while to load for you so here’s some young red panda pics.  Hope they put a smile on your face.

[RabbitPam]

MM,
You’ve got a bad case of the blues, and I recognize what’s happening because I do it myself. Someone once called it expansive thinking, which is when you have something bothering you, so you add to it and project and it gets bigger and worse and then everything is wrong. It’s something that only you can get under control, but there are ways.

Much to my relief, I discovered that I can’t read and have “squirrelly thoughts” at the same time. A book, one I get into like a mystery, is like an off switch. I pick one up no matter what time of day or night and stick with reading. Pretty soon you can’t ruminate on your thoughts.

The list suggestion is excellent. I heard that your mind will go over and over things you want to do because it thinks you may forget so you remind yourself about every twenty minutes. But once you list it in writing, your minds says “she’s going to take care of it and won’t forget. I can stop the alarms now.” and shuts up. Try it.

Some things make you feel helpless and are just feelings rather than problems to work on. Your kids, namely. Another tactic you can try is to tell them you are really off your feed right now, so would they help by just taking care of their own stuff for a while? You trust them to do what’s best for themselves, and want to hear how it’s going, but daughter can take care of her GED no matter how long it takes her, and son is on his own. As long as he is not flunking anything, he’s doing what son’s do. You’re doing what mothers do, which is feeling the loss. The dentist will take care of his teeth. And guess what? Dental insurance is one of the cheapest things you can ever buy, so ask him to go get some. At 20, he can figure it out. BCBS, or Guardian Dental, or others have good individual plans. But it’s his to handle now.

The holidays are just not great for the majority of people. We were going to try to cook at my mother’s so she wouldn’t, and then my brother couldn’t get off the day before etc. etc. etc. We decided to chuck the plan and are all going out to dinner together. Period. Did it last year. It was great!!! If your family is the same people you see regularly, it’s not as big a deal. And my family doesn’t even celebrate Christmas and guess what? We are fine. We just relax with a day off. Keep it simple and cozy and remove the expectations, just go with what is, not with what never really was.

I tend to avoid the real problem, and I’m betting all this is set off by your grief over the dogs. I think that’s the foundation. You just have to feel it until you feel better. Yes, you may have to put the older one down soon. He will be with his son if you do. But cuddle him and look at pix of them both and just feel it. It will pass.
Sammy sends xxxooo

[TARM]

I’m sorry you’re feeling so blah. Do you have any rescue remedy for the animals? You know people can take that stuff too. If you take it before bed it can help you turn your brain off and let you get some sleep. :0)

[Sarita]

Hugs and vibes to you MM.

[BinkyBunny]

I think it is time to give to yourself now. Can you? You are such a giving person that I wonder if your family knows how much you need to be cared for too right now. Seems like you are there for them – would you ever let them be there for you? I mean would you allow them to know you just need some time now.

Have faith that you raised your kids well. Even the best of kids will test the waters and make doofball mistakes, but they’ll be okay in the long run.

Just let them know you are feeling “blue” now, and that you’ll be fine, but right now you need lots of love and some free time, and ask your loved ones – your husband, and your kids to just help you out (in whatever way you think they could and then let them). And change plans if you have to for the holidays. What would make you most happy this year? Keep it very simple and easy if that’s it. There is nothing wrong with that.

I love all the little tricks and suggestions and advice people gave – as I think this time of year has a tendency to create the blues, and many of us could benefit some of the good advice.

BIG HUGS TO YOU!!!!!!!!

[Kafrn]

I dontk now if you have tried this, but one of our clients had a dog in the same health situation as yours – could hardly walk… we sold them some diatomaceous earth as a last resort, and the dog was just about walking THEM within days. The vet said it had no more joint pain or athritis. They were close to putting it down before and now its like a puppy again!
you can read the testimonials here: Its easy to buy in the states too!

http://www.gotyapests.com
 

 

Is it just me, or does everything just get to people at this time of year?! its like, everything in the year builds up and by November you’re ready to scream! Im going through the same thing at the moment! AAAHHH!

 

I hope you feel better soon! Sending you big choccie ice cream vibes *hugs*

[Lintini]

Tons of hugs out to you. I love Barbies idea for clearing your mind at night, I will try it too. It sounds like a wonderful idea! Everything will fall into place and I hope you feel better really soon. {{lots of snuggles from Bun and Indy}}

[MimzMum]

Oh my…all these responses! *sniffle* You guys are the best, have I told you that lately?? ((((((((((((((((blows kisshies)))))))))))))))))))
Trying to take each one in turn:
First of all though, Pam, you are such a dear! You’re like the sister I never had…thank you! *HUGE hugs* Yes, I still feel the loss of Taiku. I’ve gotten over crying about him every day, but even tonight I went outside to bring Shadow his food and I was thinking, “Now Koo, be nice to your Poppi and let him eat in peace…” It just came out of nowhere. And when it comes time to send Shadow over the bridge to his waiting family, it will be heaven for him but hell for us. And yet, we won’t have to worry about him hurting anymore…so that’s supposed to make it better, right? Yeah…well….

I’ve picked up this book called “Saying Goodbye to Your Angel Animals” by a pair of folks named Anderson. One of the chief points I agreed with was, “The loss of our pets reminds us of our own mortality and (the road to it.) (I’m paraphrasing) It heightens other losses you feel at the time of the animal’s death.” Feeling like I’ve lost my son to the outside world is huge for me right now. When you’re a mom, you live for your children needing you. Every day my kids need me less and less. I feel as if I have less purpose. I know it’s not true, but it is a thought that tickles the back of my mind. ‘The devil’s work’ I call it. It’s a voice I have to learn not to listen to. *nods*

K&K, you always have just the right prescription for the blues…a tubby would be wonderful, but I wash the bunny boxes in there…so maybe just an extra long shower…lolz….and I’m going to unwrap some chocolate Riesens and enjoy! ^_^ (With my meds, drinking is not advisable.) Thank you so much for your thoughts and kind words!
I have looked for a GoLight here, but can’t seem to find them. Which is odd, I know. But we have lots of tanning salons up here and I think that’s what people do instead. I can’t because I have skin cancer running in my family, so I’ll have to get something like that light. But some days it’s a real draw because not only do I wish for more spectrum, but my old bones need the heat!!

Katie H….thank you for the college perspective. Yeah, I’ve been there too…I know I can’t nag him and I really try not to. I think he can read my mind though…lolz. He sees me get that look, yanno? I fear his dad gets on his case more than I do and I wish I could put the kibosh on that.

Oh my, Jerz, those pandas are the CUTEST! *squee!* Gosh I would take one home if I could, believe me. I have an old World Wildlife Fund plush red panda that I just love…almost all the fur is messed up on it from hugging. I loved how that group donated parts of their proceeds to conservation of these beautiful animals. I put the big ‘face time’ shot on my desktop…he’s smiling at me as we speak. Thank you!
And I took those YouTube videos and burned them to my hard drive…I just pull them up whenever. Still I’m sure my computer is going to crash playing them someday…lolz.

TARM, I hadn’t thought about the RR. Thanks! Honestly I’d drink the whole bottle if I could…good thing it’s a spritz only! lmao!

Sarita, thank you for your kind words. Really, I should not be griping about my difficulties…I think of all the worries you’ve had with your bunnies and I just wish I could wipe them all away for you and make everyone feel better again! Hugs & vibes back to you!

BB…we’ve touched bases privately as well as here. Thank you once again for your kindness. It means so very much. Bless you!
I really don’t know how much I am there for my family. We are each of us pretty independent. But you are right, I tend to like to be in control of my own stuff and anything I don’t do makes me feel like I’m burdening them unnecessarily. They all pretty much know that when I get into my ‘moods’ they’re better off leaving me be. But then I worry that I’m not thinking of their feelings and it just starts the whole cycle again. It’s hard to know what to do for everyone at this stage in our lives.
In a way, it’s good my son is away at college and doesn’t have to deal with this every day anymore. I often find myself wishing my daughter was finished with her school so she could ‘get her own life’ as well. But that will be another loss for me in a way. *sigh*
I don’t remember there being anything warning me that life would be this complicated when they handed me the kids’ birth certificates. Must be in the fine print somewhere…lolz. *pulls out magnifying glass*

Kafrn…thank you for the link…I will read up it. It sounds interesting and promising. I would give just about anything to help our old boy feel like a young dog again, even if it’s for a short period of time. I am not sure it’s something that a dog who’s previously had GDV can ingest, but it’s worth asking the vet about. If it’s old shell deposits, it can’t be too far off from glucosamine, which we started with him today. (and at least the weather is warming a little and should be back to above zero by week’s end)

Lintini…I’ve been reading your other thread about all the troubles you’ve been having…I am so sorry things are so sad for you right now and have been for awhile. But yes, isn’t it wonderful how the bunnies bring us out of ourselves and give us some solid reasons to go on trying? And of course they’ve brought us together here to be able to hold each other up when the load gets too heavy.
Feel free to message me if you need to. I check the board pretty much every day. And I have a strong shoulder, despite my rant here.

To everyone…thank you again so much for all your kind words and healing vibes. They mean more than you can possibly know!

Just an update: Son had his eye exam today and his condition is called ‘cobblestoning’ of the eyelid, caused by an overactive immune response. Treatable with drops. He will be fine! Thank you for keeping him in your thoughts!

And now…off to clean bunnies and to bed. With happier thoughts in my head thanks to all of you! Bless you all and good night!
(lolz…now I sound like Conan O’Brien…rofl!)

[RabbitPam]

This was on lolcats this morning.

[Barbie]

RabbitPam, that reminds me of a picture my friend sent me….

[Lintini]

I was looking through some poetry  and I found this beautiful poem to share with you. 

 

Anything is Possible

By Unkown

 

If there ever was a time to dare,

to make a difference,

to embark on something worth doing,

IT IS NOW.

Not for any grand cause, necessarily…

but for something that tugs at your heart.

something that’s your inspiration.

something that’s your dream.

You owe it to yourself to make your days here count.

HAVE FUN.

DIG DEEP.

STRETCH.

DREAM BIG.

Know,though, that things worth doing seldom come easy.

There will be good days.

And there will be bad days.

There will be times when you want to turn around,

pack it up, and call it quits.

Those times tell you

that you are pushing yourself, that you are not afraid

to learn by trying.

PERSIST.

Because with an idea,

determintaion, and the right tools,

you can do great things.

Let your instincts, your intellect,

and your heart guide you.

TRUST.

Believe in the incredible power of the human mind.

Of doing something that makes a difference.

Of working hard.

Of laughing and hoping.

Of lazy afternoons.

Of lasting friends.

Of all the things that will cross your path this year.

The start of something new brings the hope of something great, ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE.

 

 

{{{{(((lots of hugs, from Bun,Indy and I)))}}}}

[MimzMum]

Lintini, a beautiful poem like that is such a wonderful sight to see…thank you so much! ^_^ I’m putting that into my favorites folder and printing it up!

OMG…the tongue bunny strikes again! ROFL…I think that just bumped the panda off my desktop, I am bending in half here, that is SO funny!

The lolcats…too cute! I love the little ones that say something like, “Bad day? I fix it!” and it looks like the one kitten is putting his arm around the other kitten’s shoulders. I have so many on my hard drive, I can’t find them right now. But I know I copied them to it.

We went into town today and I picked up these little “Good Friends Are Hard To Find” friendship books…you know the type. Lots of cute puppies, kittens and bunnies with quippy sayings on the opposite facing page? I’ll have to be naughty and post a few here because when I read them I think of you all.

[Elrohwen]

I’m not really good at saying super uplifting stuff, but I wanted to say that you’re one of the nicest people on this forum and reading your posts always makes me smile, so I’m so sad that you’re going through so many hardships. Try to spend time with your buns and find a few positive moments in every day – binkies have the power to always cheer me up a bit. (((hugs)))

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