I’ve been putting this off…

[GHbun]

Some of you may recall that last winter I took in a bun belonging to a friend of a friend. I’m just taking care of him until she gets on her feet. I didn’t know her before this, but over these months it’s become clear that she has a habit of bad decisions and destructive behavior. It’s to the point that I feel my family’s security is compromised by having her pet here, and I really need to cut any ties to her. Poor bunny, I wish we could keep him, but she wants to hang on to him. She can barely keep a roof over her own head, how’s she supposed to take care of her animals? She knows how to take care of rabbits, but I’ll worry.

The other issue is that another friend want to give me her rabbit. She bought him at Easter as a surprize for her young children, and now he lives outside “so he can have fresh air” they say. (There are so many things wrong with that sentence.) This bun comes with a deluxe (wire bottom) hutch, and now husband says maybe “it” should stay outside if we take “it.” Arggh! I’ll let you know.

Anyway, keep SamWise (first paragraph) in your thoughts. Hope he’ll be okay with his owner.

[Kokaneeandkahlua]

Can you maybe tell your friend that you’ve just become so attached to the rabbit that you have to keep it? Or maybe ask for ‘shared custody’? If you’re able to keep some ownership maybe she’ll just decide a bunny is a nuisance and let you keep him?

{{SamWise}}

[Kafrn]

Is there any way that you can explain to her that if she cant look after herself, then there is no way she could possibly look after anyone else at the moment? It sounds harsh, but if she has no where to live, how can she house a rabbit?

Surely she could realise that the quality of life for the bunny is far higher when the bunny is with you? (I mean, because moving it would stress the rabbit, as it would consider your place a cozy home)

She might want her rabbit back, but she could realise that as far as that rabbits happiness is concerned, this situation is about the BUNNY, not about her just wanting a pet to make herself feel better? And the bunny is happy where it is?

Can you tell her it ran away somehow?

[Sage Cat]

Sounds tricky.
I would be tempted to tell your “friend” her rabbit ran away too!
Hubby should know better!

[GHbun]

The problem is that she’s an irresponsible animal collector (not a hoarder) and she lives a wild lifestyle. She’s made it clear I can’t have him for keeps, and I don’t want her to cause trouble for my family, like she’s done for the person who introduced us. I’ve not yet seen any evidence that there is a moral limit to what she is capable of doing, and my kids (all in high school) are not allowed to let her in if we’re not home, not that she’s even tried to visit her bun. I wouldn’t have agreed to the this association with her if I’d really known her, and now I need to extract myself from what may be a security risk. She knows how to take care of a rabbit (and a guinea pig, and a cat, and a dog – oops, make that TWO dogs – she’s just added another), so ignorance is not my concern for the bun, but will she just hand him off to some other unsuspecting stranger? Before me, he was boarded in a horse barn for 2 years. I don’t know, maybe she won’t do anything to my family, but she’s capable of it. Sometimes there are people you just have to get out of your life. But the poor bunny! Aarrggh!

And meanwhile, there’s Petey, the Easter bunny (Peter) Rabbit from this other friend. Wouldn’t it be great is I could have them both and bond them? *Sigh* But we don’t currently have the resources for 2 rabbits, and eventually Sam has to go back to his owner anyway. Maybe it’s time to move Sam out to make room for Petey, if I can convince my husband that we’d be bringing him indoors. (What’s the point of having a bunny in the backyard!!!?) But it sounds so cold-hearted. I’m just wringing my hands over the whole mess.

Anyway, thanks for listening.

[Monkeybun]

Why does your hubby think the bunbun should stay outside? We might be able to come up with ideas to convince him otherwise I really have no idea what to suggest for poor little Sam. If that woman can’t be bothered to even visit him, then she can’t be bothered to take him to a vet, make sure he’s fed, clean, etc… especially with that many more animals to take care of.

[RachelB]

Take a bat to the outside cage (tell hubby some naughty neighboorhood boys must have gotten to it). Then there is no way that the bun can stay outside and he will have to come in.

My bf was deadset on having any pets that shed indoors (he loves animals and has two snakes, a gecko, and fish)…. that was until he had Samson staying at his house for a week while I was away. Now that Sammy and Ivy are back at my house he is always over visiting them and playing on the floor with them. Hes totally fallen in love with the bunnies and misses them when he’s home at his place. Im positive that once your hubby gets to know the bun he will feel the same way!

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